I had become a widower in 1998 at age 44, with three children (ages 14, 10, and 9) to care for. I took a couple of years to recover from the effects of losing my wife and adapt to my new situation, and eventually began to believe that I had permission from God to look for a new relationship. I found that I could survive, day to day, and do the things expected of me, but I was missing a major source of joy – the opportunity to share my challenges and small victories with a Godly woman, and to support her through her challenges and share in her victories.

Like many middle-aged single people, I found it very difficult to meet other single people. I don’t frequent bars, relationships in the workplace are not a good choice, church is not supposed to be a meet-market, and it’s difficult (perhaps unreasonable) to just sit and wait for God to send someone to bump into you in the grocery store. I’m not particularly outgoing, and that exacerbated my feeling of isolation.

I did attempt a couple of relationships through introductions from friends and family, but they didn’t work out – sometimes in spectacular fashion. In retrospect, meeting and dating people who had not offered any information on themselves in advance turned out to be just as happenstance an approach as waiting to get bumped-into at the grocery.

That’s where Singles of Faith came in. Finally, by exchanging the details of my likes, dislikes, beliefs, and testimony with others, I could look for a woman who was made by God to understand how He made me. Ironically, after about four months of looking at profiles and giving the Lord time to help me sift through them, I wasn’t the one who reached out. I received a brief note from [her], simply asking me if I’d like to correspond. We passed notes back and forth and quickly found that, in a big, wide Internet-connected world, we lived 1.5 miles apart, went to churches down the street from one another, played music in our churches’ worship teams, and sent our kids to the same schools.

We met for a brief, nervous (me, at least) cup of coffee. We each decided to let the Lord help us investigate further, which led to a dinner date, and to more dates. It gradually came to both of us that God had led us into the kind of supportive, understanding, loving relationship that we’d both been praying for. Through the process of getting to know one another as the person who best knows and understands us, the person we don’t want to leave, the person we most want to be with, we’ve felt God’s strong hand, and we praise Him every day for putting us together.

This month, not quite two years after our first e-mail exchange, we decided to set a wedding date in June. We’d get married today if we could, but with kids on both sides to acclimate to the change, job changes, and the logistics of combining households to manage, we’ve felt that God wants us to take the time we need to do it right.

We thank you at Singles of Faith for providing the effective framework that helped God lead us to each other. Keep up the good, inspired work on the behalf of single Christians.

Thanks for letting me ramble on.

Blessings-

After my divorce in 2002, I had no desire to ever get married again. I had to re-enter the work force, and put all my energy towards that, and raising my two teen-aged daughters. But I did want to have a relationship. I put a lot of thought into what I wanted in a man and came up with a list. I revised this list over a period of a year, but the number one requirement never changed, that is a "Christian Man".

The man I was married to did not have a personal relationship with God, and I never felt loved in that marriage. It occurred to me that since love comes from God, then I must find a man that loves God above all else. This is what led me to Singles of Faith.

My now fiancee and I started corresponding on line through SinglesOfFaith, then we met for coffee, and then dinner, a movie, and so on. The more we got to know each other, the more I realized that God put us together. We are so alike, like "two peas in a pod". His love for me is so apparent, to me and others close to us, that it overwhelms me. I love being with him, even if it's just standing in line at the grocery store. Because I feel so secure in his love, I can be myself, and that draws us even closer.

Because we are so compatible, and enjoy each other’s company so much, I realized I would like to spend the rest of my life with him. Since we both feel like we’re called to be together, we became engaged and have wedding plans for October (which will be three years after our initial conversation on-line). I thank Singles of Faith for giving us the avenue to meet, but I give God all the credit and thank Him daily for putting the two of us together. God does amazing work when we ask in his name.

I met someone very special on your website and we have been dating since Jan 14th. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE completely remove my information. I feel awkward dating someone exclusively while my info is available for the world to see.

Thanks.

I just wanted to say that in four years, I have never seen a site like this one. Absolutely a blessing to see questions structures like you have. Thanks!

Oh, and I am extremely excited about your website! I really wished I would have come across it before I went to "[another site]"...because your site is REALLY a Christian site!

Singles of Faith!!! So glad to be apart of something wonderful!!!

Months ago I had looked for [another site] with out finding it, so I joined a couple others and found THEIR ideas of what Christian site is. Then last night suddenly your site was in front of me .... how? .... had to be of the Lord. Also I do want to say "Thank You" for the profile one has to fill out ... very in-depth, and one really has to look within. Having all of the information to read, already enjoyed much of it. Very informative. Thank you for your site is all I can say. I have already mentioned it to others and will continue to do so.

In Him,

"As a Christian woman who is not interest in a dating circus, I was thrilled with the concept of your site."

P.S. you have a great website, keep up the good work.