Meet the person God has for me to meet ...
meet • why date christians only?

So what's wrong with dating an unbeliever now and then?

  • I'm strong enough to keep it merely a friendship
  • God could use me in his/her life to lead them to Himself
  • I can learn relationship skills in preparation for THE one
  • There just aren't enough relationship-ready single Christians out there
  • This person is SO nice ... They MUST be a "Christian"
  • This person treats me better than the CHRISTIANS I have dated
  • I know God would understand ...
What's the big deal? Why would God care so much? Why should I care?

Well, given the richness of a walk with Christ, and our personal knowledge and experience with the satisfaction that comes by living a life of faith, we know this is merely a hypothetical question, right? (Wink.) Who in their right mind wouldn't *prefer* to be in a relationship with a believer? So ... reason number one: why settle if we don't have to? All other things being equal, every Christian would prefer to be in a relationship with another believer.

But does God really understand?

"Does He REALLY know what it's like to not be able to share my heart completely with another?" Well, we all know the answer to that. Of course He knows. Let's consider some of the reasons He MIGHT be waiting prior to introducing you to the person He has for you:
  • He may not sense that you're ready yet, and He is doing some preparing. (Are you cooperating? :)
  • He may see that you have relationship skills that need more work (Seek wise counsel :)
  • He may see you clinging to previous relationships or relationship issues ( " " " :)
  • The person He has for you may not yet be ready. (Pray for him/her :)
  • If you met him/her at the place you are now, you two might kill the relationship opportunity
  • Your life circumstances might be about to change dramatically. (Are you living in anticipation of His working?)
  • His/her life circumstances might be about to change dramatically
  • He/she may be just ending a current relationship and is a couple of months away from being ready for you
  • You or he/she may have a few pounds left to shed and a new eating lifestyle to fully adopt. (Are you being completely obedient?)

And finally, the PROBLEMS with dating an unbeliever ...

Not only is dating an unbeliever NOT THE BEST decision, but here are some reasons why it could be the worst.
  • Choosing to be unequally yoked (II Cor. 6:14) is slapping God in the face with willful disobedience
  • It demonstrates a deep-down genuine distrust of God and His declared plans for you.
  • It demonstrates your willingness to choose the world's options over and above God's life invitation
  • The man/woman you choose to date is not on track for life stability, but rather still lives in the Enemy's control
  • He/she will have no biblical concept of covenant (committed no matter what) marriage
  • He/she will be unconsciously trained in the worlds' strategy of trying to impress rather than being real
  • His/her past may continue to haunt them, since they do not know forgiveness
  • His/her relationship history may pop up to haunt you in the near (or distant) history
  • DATING THAT UNBELIEVER MAY VERY WELL PREVENT YOU FROM MEETING THE PERSON GOD HAS SET APART JUST FOR YOU!
Our suggestion: in relationships, as in every area of life, either God is who He claims to be - trustworthy - or He is not. Our daily decisions declare our vote. Remember ... we're only down here on this planet for 75 - 100 years. Our NEXT chapter will last for several hundred BILLION years. Our decision to be faithful and to persevere builds the character muscles God desires for those of us who wish to live in His richness.

Hang in there! We're all going through the same challenges. The future IS bright in Him :)