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Most of us would wish to be more mature in our relationship with Christ, but spiritual maturity is a slippery concept, difficult to define. The questions in this Assessment are designed to help us evaluate our perception of our spiritual maturity by examining our lives and behavior in nine core aspects of "the Christian life" (demeanor, worship, evangelism, stewardship, knowledge, application/obedience, servanthood, relationships and character.)

Pause for a moment to think of the two or three most spiritually mature, most godly men or women you know. See if the following areas represent the reasons they come to mind for you. Please let us know if you think of other categories that characterize a godly, mature man or woman of God.

Check the boxes below that you believe most accurately describe your life. You may want to review, once you're done, to spot which areas in which you'd most like to see the Lord work at this time.

I. Demeanor:

1. People who spend time with me would say that I am quite mature in the faith (like Jesus was. Not to the DEGREE He was, but in the WAY He was.)
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

2. People who spend time with me would say that I am humble (like Bill Bright.)
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

3. People who spend time with me would say that I am wise (like Solomon.)
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

4. People who spend time with me would say that I am able to apply Scripture insightfully to practical situations (like Billy Graham)
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

5. People who spend time with me would say I communicate with grace
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

6. People feel understood and respected around me, even if I disagree with them. I'm tolerant
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

7. People would say I know the Word of God deeply
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

8. People who spend time with me would say I am a person who loves others (like Jesus did)
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

Demeanor Total: _____.   Average: (divide by 8) _____.

II. Worship:

1. I experience God's presence or have intimate interaction with Him during corporate worship times
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

2. I respectfully enter God's presence with awe, humility and gratitude
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

3. I arrive at Church prepared to worship, having prayed, confessed and focused
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

4. Worship is part of my daily lifestyle ... it is not just an event I attend
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

5. I truly look forward to worshipping God
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

6. Virtually nothing prevents me from experiencing the presence of God in worship
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

Worship Total: _____.   Average: (divide by 6) _____.

III. Evangelism:

1. I effectively share my faith in Jesus Christ with non-Christians
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

2. People have accepted Christ as their savior after I have shared my faith in Christ with them
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

3. I make sure the people I have evangelized get the spiritual follow-up and support they need
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

4. I intentionally develop and maintain relationships with non-Christians with the hope of being able to share my faith with them
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

5. I regularly pray for the salvation of specific non-Christians I know
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

6. I am involved in identifying or creating opportunities to share my faith with the non-believers
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

7. I am well prepared to address people's objections to Christianity
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

Evangelism Total: _____.   Average: (divide by 7) _____.

IV. Stewardship:

1. I give at least 10 percent of my income to the Lord's work
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

2. I joyfully share what I have with those in need
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

3. I set aside at least 10 percent of my time for serving
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

4. I use resources efficiently to maximize my impact for the kingdom of God
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

5. I donate my skills to further the kingdom
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

6. My personal stewardship is extremely important to me
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

7. I sacrifice my resources regularly to facilitate ministry impact
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

Stewardship Total: _____.   Average: (divide by 7) _____.

V. Knowing What I Believe

1. I read and study the Bible on my own
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

2. I memorize scripture
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

3. I am able to clearly explain what I believe and why
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

4. I evaluate all teaching, ideas, values and lifestyles to see if they are consistent with the Bible
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

5. I am learning more about the Bible
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

6. I know all of the basic teachings of the Bible extremely well
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

7. I am certain that the Bible is true in all that it teaches
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

Knowledge Total: _____.   Average: (divide by 7) _____.

VI. Applying My Faith

1. My daily choices and decisions are based upon biblical principles and values
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

2. My speech and behavior pleases God
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

3. I pray constantly, both speaking and listing to God
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

4. My attitudes, values and thoughts please God
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

5. Other people hold me accountable for spiritual growth
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

6. I follow the guidance of the Holy Spirit
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

7. I am passionate about imitating Christ
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

8. I am committed to fulfilling specific spiritual goals
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

Practical Application Total: _____.   Average: (divide by 7) _____.

VII. Serving Others

1. I am committed to serving people who do not belong to my church as well as serving those who do
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

2. I make the best possible use of my spiritual gifts
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

3. I built relationships with the people I serve
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

4. I sacrifice my resources for the benefit of the needy
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

5. I fight against injustice and inequality
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

6. I am consistently improving other people's lives
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

7. I consistently demonstrate sincere compassion
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

Servanthood Total: _____.   Average: (divide by 7) _____.

VIII. Relationships With Believers

1. I show love to other people
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

2. I allow people in my church to love and serve me
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

3. My church friends are honest with me about my spiritual condition and development
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

4. I spend time with people from my church, other than when I see them at church
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

5. Others in the church know they can trust me
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

6. I am extremely understanding and forgiving of other believers
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

7. My church friends seem like family to me
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

Relationships Total: _____.   Average: (divide by 7) _____.

IX. Personal Character:

1. Other people would call me a person of integrity and honesty and authenticity
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

2. My life is characterized by consistent joy and peace
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

3. In my interactions with others I am patient and kind
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

4. Even unbelievers would call me a notably good person
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

5. Others know that I am dependable and faithful
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

6. I am gentle
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

7. My life shows consistent self-control
Always (1) Often (2) Occasionally (3) Rarely (4) Never (5)

Character Total: _____.   Average: (divide by 7) _____.

 
- Paul the Apostle
- George Barna
- Alan Nelson

Totals:
    Demeanor average: Stewardship average: Servanthood average:
    Worship average: Knowledge average: Relationships average:
    Evangelism average: Application average: Character average:
Your two highest scores may be the areas you want to explore some growth in.

Please remember that even spiritual maturity can become an idol, so let's keep this in perspective. Let us remember that it is a Person to whom we have given our lives -- the God of this Universe -- and not a "system" or an "ethic," even one as healthy-sounding as "spiritual maturity."

Consider this: If you had a fruit tree in your back yard, and it was not bearing fruit to the degree you thought it was capable, how would you facilitate more fruit? By tying, taping or stapling fruit onto the branches? Of course not. You'd not concentrate on the fruit (other than as an indicator of the health of the tree.) You'd "go for the roots" most likely. You'd water them, fertilize them, make sure the soil was nutrient-filled to facilitate growth, ...

We'd propose it's the same with us. We're not to concentrate on bearing more fruits. Grunting, groaning, trying to bear more fruit. No. We are to concentrate on our Root, Jesus of Nazareth. And when we are deeply rooted in Him, there's no stopping the fruit-bearing. So the challenge for each of us ... stay close to the Master. Drive our roots deeply into Him (through the Word, prayer, worship, fellowship, etc.)

If you're able to facilitate personal growth on your own, we hope this self-assessment assists you in the process. If you find that you grow better in relationship, and you'd like to consider Christian coaching as catalyst, please feel free to contact us for more information.

May your day be every bit the abundant day that our Lord has for you ...