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Here are some behaviors / events that might warrant "keeping your caution walls up" even longer than you normally would or should:

For Gals:

• If your intuition ever makes you feel uneasy for any reason. (Do you want to be in a relationship where you feel uneasy?)
• If he ever (ever) lies. You may legitimately decide to NOT give him a second chance. It's an all-too-common male disease. (The most common male lie, by the way: his marital status. Be careful!)
• If he ever seems "pushy" in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable
• If you sense any hint of dysfunctionality
• If he frequently talks about previous relationships or relationship partners
• If he frequently blames past relationship failures on his partner(s)
• If he has been divorced more than once
• If he compares you to others
• If he doesn't look you in the eye
• If his eyes frequently wander to others when you're together
• If you sense selfishness early in the relationship. (It'll likely get worse.)
• If he makes you pay for dates
• If he is saddled with debt or bad credit
• If he is ever unwilling to be completely up front and honest
• If he seems to be covering something up
• If he won't let you speak with previous partners
• If he is unwilling to commit in the time frame you desire. (Not right or wrong, just different timelines, at least for now.)
• If he will not respect your boundaries in any way
• If he proposes marriage any time within the first 180 days
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For Guys:

• If she is "clingy" to the point of making you uncomfortable
• If she seems to view you as her path to happiness. (Happiness is an "inside game" she needs to have learned before now.)
• If she ever lies. (The most common female lie, by the way: her weight. And ... intentionally using old photos.)
• If she continues flirting with others when you two are in a relationship
• If it seems to you like she is "using you" in any way
• If she has been divorced more than twice. (We "cut slack" more for gals here, because women may discover some mens' well-practiced deceit "too late.")
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